I'm Getting Tired Of Keeping My "Thing" Until After Marriage
Dear Admin
I'm a 25 years old lady. Growing a good relationship has been a daunting challenge for me, it just won't last. Sometimes my fellow ladies take him from me or lack of s*x causes our separation even after letting him know from the beginning that I am totally for a no s*x before marriage relationship. At first they would accept only to walk out when I have fallen in love.
Some of these men have been good to me but s*x is the only barrier. Some said I'm too rigid. I have really worked on my character because at some point I thought I was lacking some good morals. My friends always advice me that séx keeps relationship going.
But I want to know, can't one have a healthy relationship without s*x?
As a vir-gin, if I desire for a man's affection, is it wrong? I really need advice because I'm heart broken now. And I'm beginning to have a rethink on my determination to keep "my thing" until after marriage.
Dnt b tired, any man who truely love u n want a future wit u will b patient wit u till after marriage.
ReplyDeleteI know how u feel desr cos I wear dis same shoe as u in dis issue,I just lost a relationship yesterday,am also as confused now
ReplyDeleteIt will be difficault but you will eventually get that man that has same philosophy and understanding. Don't let friends influence you because you alone knows what is best for you. Keep ur pride pls.
ReplyDeleterelationshing is all about sex nowadays!
ReplyDeleteStand firm dont let friends influence u.
ReplyDeletedo not have sex with the guy and forget your friends bad ideals and be patient.
ReplyDeleteThe devil is a liar don't mind them.this is what happened to me but prayer made me go through. Am now married with a man who respects and adores me bcos of that.I now have a kid with him by the grace of God.
ReplyDeleteThats really cool.You are a really lady, keep it up as a really man is coming to get you for good baby.
ReplyDeleteDnt giv up!there's nothing to be ashamed of.thoz guys dnt dserve you nd dnt follow your friends advise cos u alone shud choose whom to giv your virginity to at your own time so that if he turns out to be a mistake,he wil atleast be your mistake and not your friends'.
ReplyDeletei tink dat u sud work on ur moral,may he leave u bcus of immorality
ReplyDeleteDon't let ur friends full u to lost ur virginity.Don't rush, u know that russia can not carry trophy,so if u rush u will cross.
ReplyDelete4wat u xuld knw diz days man love sex too much more dat dey wuld hv it evryday,so dey wnt bear to share a bed wth a woman wthwt fulfillng dier need,dey all gwng to walk away
ReplyDeleteHmmm! You have to be strong on dis 1 and stand ur grounds cos I won't lie u its gonna be challenging. Even d man dat will wait for u is gonna ask for it untiil dat faithful day n u ve to be wise too. Der r some men dat will go to d xtreme to get wat dey want. D onli way forward is be close to God if u really want to keep it till ur married.
ReplyDeleteIs true all dey say here keep ur pride
ReplyDeletenever let how u feel take your pride from u. but be outstanding in your search for the right man who will have same focuse like you' his just aroue the corner if you believe.
ReplyDeleteSame thing happend to me, i could not hold on, i lost it ceremonialy anyways but am regreting it now. I wish my husband met me then. So my kindid advice is STAY TIGHT!
ReplyDeleteit a hard thin to do but it also a choice tin.if the man truly loves u he wil wait but mind u, he will surely have someone outside that he is f***ing.it care is not taken u might loose him to the lady outside.
ReplyDeletepls don't be tired, keep it up, don't give up,God is your refuge, He is there for u and will provide you a man who understand u n will lead into marriage. i'm victim n 31yrs now. for your health matter don't worry nothing will go bad, i just visited doctor 10/5/14 n asked him the same question but ans was
ReplyDeleteno, no harm on been as u are.God time is the best
plz my dea never give up,wil u ever give up?never!!!
ReplyDeleteI find it difficult to understand how funni pipu get wenever there is need to advise. Everybody keep saying 'dont give, keep ur head high' as if there avnt go down before. We say we cant do, most time.
ReplyDeleteDear, u knw better, its in u.. No one can push u around, afterall u r d driver of ur life. Drive it careful. Do d ryt tin for ursef. Its in U!
Sex in a dating relationship is the most controversial topics I have ever seen. Most people are confused as to whether to have sex in a dating relationship or not, some are thinking of keeping it till marriage etc. First
ReplyDeleteof all, I want to let you know that sex is not love and love is not sex. There is a huge difference between these two words. You can have sex with someone you don’t love and you can love someone without having sex with him/her.
Sex has the capacity to kill the potential growth of love in a man. This is because a man can only grow love and get in touch with his feelings when sex is kept out of the relationship for the right time, using the available time to get to know and understand one another, grow love in full capacity and become tolerant of each other. These things take time and when you disrupt it by introducing sex at the initial stage of the relationship, things will not work out. The way God created us is not to have sex first, fall in love and then get married. It does not work that way. It has to be - fall in love, get married and then have sex.
When people in a dating relationship have sex, the focus is on what the sex provides and not on real feelings. A woman can believe she has met her true love, when in reality she only succeeded in making emotional connection due to sex, thereby becoming trapped in something she shouldn’t be a part of. On the other hand, a man never gets to that level of love, since what he was supposed to get as a reward for getting in contact with his true feelings and experiencing true deep love, he got at the onset of the relationship. When you bring in sex into a dating relationship, it terminates the growth of love, as sex is the reward of an established and secure relationship and not the beginning of a relationship. Sex cannot be used as foundation for a secure relationship, yet many tried to do it. The issue here is that most people neither Support love, nor its development, but rather sex that is likely to result in the destruction of true love. Therefore, abstain from sex before marriage and grow your love instead.
Please don't be tired, The right person is out there you just have to wait for him. I'm actually proud of you for standing your ground I have so much respect for you because of that. You have a great rule there of no sex before marriage, that way you can really test and know if the guy you are dating wants a relationship and commitment with you and not just someone to share the bed with. I understand that it gets frustrating but trust me it will all be worth it once you meet the right one. Just hang in there.
ReplyDeleteRegards,
Tavia Cruz
Who says ladies who give in don't get dumped? As far as most men are concerned, sex is not equal to love. Do prostitutes and their customers love each other? Do rapists and their victims love each other? Please continue to wait for the right man.
ReplyDeleteAs I said earlier,ladies who give in also get dumped sometimes and their number of sex partners increases with each break-up. This narrows their dating/marriage pool because the Bible forbids marrying or sleeping with a relative of anybody you have slept with. Since relatives do not always share the same surname or hometown (e.g.children of two sisters) or even look alike,such ladies' chances of unknowingly committing incest is high. You don't have that problem because you kept your virginity.
Never u give in, ur virginity is ur pride, u are a real woman our society demand for, God wll help U. Ur friend who advice u to negatively are devil tell them, get back of me as Jesus did told Peter his best friend.
ReplyDeleteKeep your thing smart and clean my dear, that is an honorable thing to do, it will keep your utter happiness and joy when you finally got the man who will break it and from there you will feel the absolute happiness of your virginity. Friends may trick you to disappoint you when later they will laugh at you for being stupid and silly at their company of the "used and unhealthy thing''. If your post is not for fun, take my advise and soon you will get Mr. Right at your door.
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